To my fellow Parkview graduates, four years have passed. What has changed? How much has changed? What about yourself is still true? What part of character are you glad has altered? Or what part of yourself is no longer true that you wish it were?
Four years later, I reread my own words and find that yes, I have changed, but the sentiment still rings true. Take each day with a smile. :)
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I begin with a single statement that so many others have expressed before me: stated simply, I don’t know. I don’t know what I should say tonight. I don’t know what advice I could possibly give as we part ways to begin this new chapter, new phase, new part of our lives.
I’ve been told that “I am unique... just like everybody else.” A common pun, perhaps, but a true one at that. Within this field of white and blue, there are aspirations, goals, individual dreams that we will strive for, work for, and accomplish as we embark on our individual journeys. Each person has their own values, their own desires; no person in this crowd can even remotely be considered “normal”, because face it, we’re weird, we’re different. But we are still in many ways the same. So what advice could I possibly give, when I am just as inexperienced, just as clueless, about where I will end up in the remainder of my life. Five years from now, twenty years from now, a hundred years from now, each color of blue, each person of white in the field below, will still be forever branded a Parkview graduate. From here, our paths will diverge; they might even cross, but you’ll still always be Parkview panther. Remember that.
Amongst this uncertainty about what I should say, where we are going, and where we will end up, there stands a common goal: to succeed. And what is success? No words can adequately and explicitly sum up this ambiguous aspiration, but if these past four years have taught me something, it’s that on the road to success you must hold your head up high and approach life with a smile.
On a random day in a random spring month of my sophomore year, I distinctly recall sitting outside the tennis courts, flipping a coin over and over in my palm. Next to me was Lucas, which I’m sure many of you remember, but he, too, seemed similarly bored out of his mind. I looked over at Lucas, flipped the coin high in the air and asked “Heads or tails? Heads I win, Tails you lose.” Granted, the expression may have been slightly immature, but hey, like I said, we’re weird. Lucas turned his head, looked straight into my face, and just smiled. It’s the kind of smile that is unmistakably sincere and chock full with optimism. Answering the question he responded, “Well then, Tim Soo, I choose heads, because that way, I can share in your success.”
It took me a second to contemplate that there actually was a difference between me winning heads and him losing tails. Frankly, I thought I was just flipping a coin. But Lucas whipped back with such optimism and humility that I just laughed. Now, I’ve told this story many a time and often get a response that seems to almost jeer at such a brightness in such a simple response. Well, that may be so. But you know what? The fact is, I remembered it. I remembered his exact smile, his exact words, in that exact moment of my life. Thus, is the power of a smile.
My purpose here tonight is to challenge, to hope, and to ask each senior to go on through life remembering to smile wherever you may go, during whatever life may throw at you.
It’s 3 AM; you’ve only slept eight hours in the past week and still find you have two more essays to write. You’ve run twenty laps and Senor Brennen just smiles as he tells you to run 5 more. Life has treated you harshly, and it seems its only going to get worse. Smile during these times, in the face of adversity, and even if that smile may be forced, I guarantee a forced smile makes a genuine happiness come much faster.
Your mom drew a happy face with mayo on your sandwich. A teacher stayed with you for that extra hour after the 2:10 bell. I remind you to smile when you love. Remember to show gratitude to all those who have helped you along the way and brought you to where you are now. Whether that means giving them an extra hug or just writing a letter of thanks, let those you care about, know how much and how deeply you care.
A smile can be a smart-aleck smirk; it can be a forced smile of awkwardness when you meet someone for the first time. But among the thousands of smiling expressions, none are negative. All will bring your spirits higher.
So what is success?
"I think success is getting to a point where you have achieved the goals you set for yourself."
"I think success is determined in terms of your own standards and no one else’s. Remember your success could be someone else’s failure."
"I think success is getting to the top or near to top in life, in an activity, or whatnot."
"It’s the feeling when you can’t help but smile no matter how hard you try."
"It’s when you use your talents to better the world and fulfill your dreams."
"It’s growing mentally and emotionally in the skills, patience, and perseverance you gained in Pre-Calculus even though you may only have a B to show for it."
"Do what you love. If you’re able to do what you love in life, you’re successful."
"This road to success will be curved with speed bumps, red lights, flat tires, and loops, but as long as you have a spare of determination, optimism and hope, you will reach this place of success."
Following my Chinese heritage, I wish I could call these quotes my own giant fortune cookie? But, I guarantee you I’m not nearly creative enough nor philosophical enough to come up with these on my own. These are the definitions of success as provided by members of our own esteemed senior class, and notice no two are alike. Yet each definition has a similar trait—in each quote success depends on how you feel, how you think you did, how you evaluate your life. Thus is why there exists “success in smiles." A smile gives a brighter outlook on life, a happier mood in each day. These are the beliefs we will live by and cherish as we travel away from our Parkview years. So, if you are happier about yourself, happier about the path you have chosen, you will have succeeded.
At last as we take our leave, we cannot forget to thank. To all of my classmates, it was you who kept me going; it was you who challenged me to shoot for the stars; and it was you who unmistakably soaked me with water guns as I walked down the halls. We’ve grown together, cried together, and basically been with each other to the extent where we should be downright sick of each other; yet, I cringe at the thought of leaving, at the thought of moving away from this class bond we have formed since our innocent beginnings in freshman year. We’ve grown from the sweet first years, holding maps to find our way to class, all the way to our senior year, when we told those same map-holding freshman that their classes were indeed on the second floor of the main building. To those I was privileged enough to know and love as friends, thank you for the unforgettable memories, thank you for being a friend. Thank you to Matt and Brian, my best friends for seven years strong, a tradition I plan to continue. To my teachers, in addition to teaching me how to integrate a function and analyze world trends, thank you for teaching me the values, the life lessons, and morals I will take with me throughout life. Graduates, look behind you. This is our fan club, our supporters. These are the people who will love you, and undoubtedly annoy you. But the greatest thanks of all, goes to family. Thank you to my own twin sister Tiffany who has been subjected to my lame jokes since our birth, my older sister Cindy who has never failed to offer a quick word of advice, to my loving Momma and Papa who truly have made me who I am today. Mom, thank you for putting up with all my crazy escapades and downright stubbornness and Dad thank you for always being reasonable and levelheaded. All those lectures finally paid off. Thanks to all my extended family here today. As my grandpa said, “I should get some credit, because if I were never here, you wouldn’t be here either.” And although I’ll only be a drive away, Family I’ll miss you dearly and love you very much.
Now if I’ve counted correctly I’ve gotten a hundred and seventeen requests from my fellow classmates to keep this speech as brief as possible. So graduates, we’ve reached the end (both of our high school years and this address), and my challenge to everyone here is to just try and smile more often, smile wider, and live with your head up high. Don’t forget to smile for love, for gratitude, for any and all emotions you will feel throughout your life. Your optimism is your weapon, one that no one can take away. Keep your confidence high and your morals higher—never forget to smile.
The time has come to go forward, to move on. And twenty years from now, when you find yourself having reoccurring nightmares about Brookwood Broncos, when you can’t shake the Parkview fight song out of your head, and when you form a distinct image of Mr. Moon “raising the roof” dressed as a female Bedrock character, remember you are and must be an integral part of the Parkview Panther Class of 2006.
Thank you and let’s graduate.
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